why so secretive?

I've been observing a trend with the few friends I have in my life and it seems that this summer secret hookups and secret relationships are all the rage. I'm not judging, in fact I've been guilty of this act numerous times in my life. But do men and women keep the relationship secret for the same reasons? Many women claim to be keeping the activities secret because they don't want to scare the guy off by appearing too eager to come out of the closet (the secret closet, not the homo closet) The claims that the secretiveness somehow makes it more exciting for women appears to be a sham. It's not more exciting it makes many women more anxious. It's almost like the same questions come into play as in a normal relationship (is he seeing someone else, is he happy with me, what can I do to make things better) only it's harder to get answers because you have agreed to keep it a secret which eliminates the seriousness that a real relationship has. Men don't have the same boundaries that they would have with an 'out in the open' relationship. And that, is the number one reason why men keep things on the down low. It's not more exciting for men either, it's just easier. They don't have to spend money taking you on dates because chances are, the two of you aren't being seen in public. He doesn't have to tell you everything because you are like the dirty porn he keeps in his room, he only brings it out when he's in the mood. And the BIG plus for men to having secret hookups and relationships is the fact that they can keep their options open. He can see you secretly and have the same arrangement set up with a bunch of other women. You'll never know because everythings so hush hush.
I personally love secret hookups because their quick (hopefully not too quick) fun and easy with no strings attatched and no one who doesn't need to know knows. However, if your having a full blown relationship that no one knows about, you should ask yourself what you're really hiding from, and whose really doing the hiding?

-B.S.