You Either Do...Or You Don't

It's totally normal for people to want to play the field when their young. It's fun and absolutely necessary in most cases. When your just dating around and having fun people tend to not put up with as much "bullshit" as they would if they really cared about the person. But how much of this "bullshit" should one stand before throwing in the towel to their toxic relationship? While other people may spend a lifetime agonizing over this question, I've concocted another question that helps you answer the first question without breaking a sweat.
Have you ever seen the Breakup with Vince Vaugn and Jennifer Aniston? (In case you are severely brain damaged that wasn't the question FYI.) In the beginning of the movie Vince's character tries to pick up Jenn's character at a baseball game while she is on a date with someone else.  This was a very bold move and Vince's character asked the million dollar question.

"Are you going to marry him?  Is he the one?"  Okay so maybe there's two questions, sue me. 

The point is, the answer to those questions will help answer the previous question.  (Once again, not the one about watching the Breakup.)  If your in a relationship where you think you are putting up with too much fighting, arguing and unhealthy behavior and that person isn't the one person you truly believe you're going to marry, then why waste the time and energy? 

First of all, if there are more cons then pros in the relationship then that person shouldn't be "the one."  However, if you feel like you can take the bad with the good and sacrificing part of your happiness for the sake of the relationship is worth it, then put up with as much crap as you need to.  But if your doing all this and you don't even have the intention of taking to relationship down the aisle then that's just sick and twisted.

Second of all, if you are putting up with everything with no intention of marriage just so your not alone, think about this.  While you're wasting your time with Mr./Mrs. Never Gonna Happen, Mr./Mrs. Perfect For You In Every Way is slipping through your finger tips. 

So it's really simple.  You either do want to spend forever with the jerk, or you don't.  Quit bitchin and make a move already!

-B.S.