Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Why do women think the only way to get a man to do what they want is by manipulating them?
BECAUSE IT WORKS. IF MEN DON'T WANT TO BE MENTALLY TOYED WITH STOP MAKING IT SO EASY!
Friends with Benefits
In light of the summer hit movie Friends with Benefits starring actress Mila Kunis and ex N'Sync member wanna-be actor but he's horrible at is Justin Timberlake. In the film two adults who look to have just escaped from disturbing relationships decide that the only thing they want from each other is sex. I have lived in the friends with benefits land many times and it really isn't as complicated as people make it out to be.
The ingredients for this mix are simple.
1. Take 1 part confident woman. You can't substitute for a girl pretending to be confident. If she doesn't have high self esteem she will bring other ingredients to the mix that can just ruin a meal, such as jealousy and annoyance.
2. Take 2 parts understanding man. Don't confuse this for a guy who thinks by having a friend with benefits means he has a whore. If he wants one of those he can hang around that sleezy motel on the corner for the cops to raid and wait for whatever prostitutes escape from the back window and he'll probably get a discount.
3. Take massive amounts of communication. It's important that both parties involved understand exaclty what the other expects. You want to be friends and hang out and talk but you also want to have sex. You will have to discuss with your special friend protocaul for seeing other people and having other "friends" because if one of you isn't comfortable with one aspect of the relationship the whole thing will undoubtedly fall apart.
4. Add honesty. Don't pretend to be okay with something that you are not okay with. Speak up about what you expect otherwise you have no one to blame but yourself.
5. Mix in a dash of self respect and be able to realize that if you start having feelings for the other person by sticking around and continuing to have sex with them without any form of commitment is not going to make the other person think of you any different. Think about it, how is doing the same thing going to make anyone thing anything different?
&. Sprinkle a bit of fun. The reason most people get involved in friends with benefits is because they like all the perks of a relationship without the drama. The benefits in your arrangement are great but don't forget your friends and should be able to go out and have fun being with each other without having sex.
7. Take all the ingredients and stir in the bedroom and just pray not to get a bun in the oven. Good luck
The ingredients for this mix are simple.
1. Take 1 part confident woman. You can't substitute for a girl pretending to be confident. If she doesn't have high self esteem she will bring other ingredients to the mix that can just ruin a meal, such as jealousy and annoyance.
2. Take 2 parts understanding man. Don't confuse this for a guy who thinks by having a friend with benefits means he has a whore. If he wants one of those he can hang around that sleezy motel on the corner for the cops to raid and wait for whatever prostitutes escape from the back window and he'll probably get a discount.
3. Take massive amounts of communication. It's important that both parties involved understand exaclty what the other expects. You want to be friends and hang out and talk but you also want to have sex. You will have to discuss with your special friend protocaul for seeing other people and having other "friends" because if one of you isn't comfortable with one aspect of the relationship the whole thing will undoubtedly fall apart.
4. Add honesty. Don't pretend to be okay with something that you are not okay with. Speak up about what you expect otherwise you have no one to blame but yourself.
5. Mix in a dash of self respect and be able to realize that if you start having feelings for the other person by sticking around and continuing to have sex with them without any form of commitment is not going to make the other person think of you any different. Think about it, how is doing the same thing going to make anyone thing anything different?
&. Sprinkle a bit of fun. The reason most people get involved in friends with benefits is because they like all the perks of a relationship without the drama. The benefits in your arrangement are great but don't forget your friends and should be able to go out and have fun being with each other without having sex.
7. Take all the ingredients and stir in the bedroom and just pray not to get a bun in the oven. Good luck
Thursday, July 7, 2011
For the fashion impared
Now I’m usually always all about looking sexy. Even at the office I try to pull off the Kim Kardashian-esque attire she wears for business meetings and such. But when I look sexy at work it is in a very professional way. I cover up my cleavage (as much as I possibly can) and when I wear skirts they are still knee length. I’m 21 years old and I grasp the concept of sexy vs. skanky in the work place.
With that being said, it boggles my mind how people in at least their 30s can get dressed in the morning, look in the mirror and truly believe they look acceptable for work.
I just walked into the office today and I’m walking behind one of the professional people (not an intern) and she’s wearing a sky blue mini skirt, I mean a legit mini skirt. Like with the color and the length I wouldn’t be surprised if she wore that last night, stayed out too late and just came to work in the same outfit. Coupled with the scandalous skirt was a barely-there tank top. I couldn’t tell if this bitch was going to the beach or to the office. And to top off the entire ensemble were 6” wedges that, even if they were on some planet considered work appropriate, didn’t even match her tacky outfit.
Maybe it’s me. Is it possible at my young age that I am old fashioned when it comes to office attire? Have I been brain washed by movies, society and my parents that led me to believe that if I dressed to much like what I would normally wear that I wouldn’t be taken seriously? I don’t think it’s me. I think people have been confusing work clothing with everyday clothing and club clothing and even beach clothing.
My mother has been going on various job interviews since completing her nursing classes. She just recently informed me that she went on one job interview where all the applicants, with the exception of her and one other woman, were wearing jeans, flips flops and tank tops. And the people wearing these frumpy outfits saw nothing wrong with it.
I admit that times are changing, I mean we have a black president, gays can unite in holy matrimony and teens getting pregnant is part of the norm, but it is not in today’s time or any time acceptable to go to work looking like the hot mess you were last night.
Time’s aren’t changing that much.
With that being said, it boggles my mind how people in at least their 30s can get dressed in the morning, look in the mirror and truly believe they look acceptable for work.
I just walked into the office today and I’m walking behind one of the professional people (not an intern) and she’s wearing a sky blue mini skirt, I mean a legit mini skirt. Like with the color and the length I wouldn’t be surprised if she wore that last night, stayed out too late and just came to work in the same outfit. Coupled with the scandalous skirt was a barely-there tank top. I couldn’t tell if this bitch was going to the beach or to the office. And to top off the entire ensemble were 6” wedges that, even if they were on some planet considered work appropriate, didn’t even match her tacky outfit.
Maybe it’s me. Is it possible at my young age that I am old fashioned when it comes to office attire? Have I been brain washed by movies, society and my parents that led me to believe that if I dressed to much like what I would normally wear that I wouldn’t be taken seriously? I don’t think it’s me. I think people have been confusing work clothing with everyday clothing and club clothing and even beach clothing.
My mother has been going on various job interviews since completing her nursing classes. She just recently informed me that she went on one job interview where all the applicants, with the exception of her and one other woman, were wearing jeans, flips flops and tank tops. And the people wearing these frumpy outfits saw nothing wrong with it.
I admit that times are changing, I mean we have a black president, gays can unite in holy matrimony and teens getting pregnant is part of the norm, but it is not in today’s time or any time acceptable to go to work looking like the hot mess you were last night.
Time’s aren’t changing that much.
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